15 Kids Questions Expecting Mothers Should Ask Their Moms

From the minute a woman takes a pregnancy test through the first prenatal doctor's appointment, one person is always on the other end of the phone- and that’s her mother! Many women will experience unpleasant and embarrassing thoughts and questions after learning they are pregnant, as well as in the following weeks (and months). If you are pregnant (first time or again), continue reading the 15 questions only your mother can answer.

Q1. How did you give birth?

Many women end up having similar birth experiences to the women they are connected to (hello genetics, my old friend). This information can help you be better prepared for the time to come.

Q2. What surprises should I be expecting?

No matter how much you learn about babies and childrearing, there will always be something new that takes you by surprise. Yet, it can't harm to plan for as many unknowns as possible. Talking with your mother about what she didn't anticipate will give you a better picture of what to expect.

Q3. How was it like having a baby?

This is for both practical reasons (since, once again, genetics may sneak up on you) and to develop a better understanding of how infants can be. It's also fun to see how your mother remembers interacting with you, as you will soon be dealing with your child.

Q4. How did you find co-parenting?

Inquire about their parenting experience, its ups and downs, and what exactly made it work. What is the required effort? Why didn't they operate well together? What hampered communication and collaboration. This may be a complex topic, but it must be had.

Q5. Will I make a good mother?

Most expecting mothers wonder this, but it may be difficult to find an open and trusting conversation partner. Allow your mother to tell you that you have what it takes to be a wonderful mother.

Q6. What happens once the baby is born?

Incontinency is a genuine issue. The majority of instances resolve during the first year of life. However, five years following birth, one-third to one-half of women report some degree of spritzing; 10% to 20% of women report experiencing socially uncomfortable leaking. You can go for pelvic-floor exercises (Kegels) to a straightforward surgical operation. When everything is said and done, it's embarrassing and best saved for a conversation with mom.

Q7. How much does it hurt?

Though it's been a while since your mother has been through it, you can anticipate an honest response from her on this one. Your mother can also help you figure out what you want for your birth plan and how to get it.

Q8. Were there any complications?

Inquiring about your mother's pregnancy symptoms may provide insight into what you may be facing. You should probably have this conversation with your mom ahead of time so that you're prepared to answer the same kinds of inquiries from your doctor when the time comes.

Q9. Where has the baby gone?

The first-trimester ultrasound is used to determine the size of your baby, the position of the pregnancy, the gestation sac, the baby's heartbeat, and the uterus and ovaries. Isn't that a lot of information to gather? It's sometimes a good idea to have your mom for the first ultrasound since you'll be taking in a lot of information!

Q10. What challenges did you encounter during your pregnancy?

Research shows that both early and lengthy, painful labor is probably inherited. Make sure you ask mom this question and any others you can think of so you're ready for anything.

Q11. Is there a history of hereditary health problems in the family?

This is the most crucial issue of all. While specific tests can detect medical problems in newborns while they are still in the womb, others test their DNA for certain hereditary illnesses. Even before pregnancy, genetic carrier tests can examine the mother and father's DNA to determine the likelihood that their kid will be born with a genetic condition. So, if the answer to this question is affirmative, you must undergo genetic testing.

Q12. What about the stretch marks?

One of the most hated aspects of pregnancy is stretch marks! They affect around 90% of pregnant women. Thus, the chances of magically avoiding them are slim. And, like many other aspects of pregnancy, they may be inherited, so here's another question to ask your mother.

Q13. Do maternal instincts really kick in?

According to research, animals and humans have a strong urge to care for their own kids during the postpartum period. So, there you have it, scientific evidence supports it, but once again, take your mom’s word as the best advice on this one.

Q14. Will I ever look the same again?

Pregnancy alters every aspect of your life, both physically and mentally. Learning to embrace your "mom body" during and after pregnancy can be challenging. Take your mother's advice on how to fall in love and accept your new self again.

Q15. Do breathing exercises actually work?

The traditional breathing techniques have been around for a long time, so ask your mother for her opinions on whether or not they are beneficial. I've heard varying opinions on this, and many individuals have had unique experiences. Hence, the best place to start is definitely with mom! They genuinely appear to be the experts on everything.

Conclusion

There are many things a doctor can tell you and some questions you can ask your friends, but there are always some doubts and fears that should be left to mom. Because it appears that no matter how old one grows, sometimes a person wants their mother! ParentalMastery.com has everything to ensure your parental journey is enjoyable and comfortable. So, when in doubt, go on, and catch up with your mom!